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Sammyjoe · Jul 4th, 2009, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by kroquet

D - Just had a great idea!!! Why not tell him that you'll sell it for a new Cabat???

Love that idea!!

Baggiana · Jul 4th, 2009, 04:23 PM

^^oops! - not a good idea, IMO ... they are not equivalent.

I am still surprised... what will you wear with black shoes in the winter... even in LA? Perhaps you already have something. Ferro goes beautifully with the darks/blacks and with the ivory/cream/beige that I see in your reveal pics - a beautiful contrast.... oh dear - what a dilemma! Perhaps you could do as some suggest - wear it only when your DH is not accompanying you...

ssc0619 · Jul 4th, 2009, 04:58 PM

It is so interesting to me that he doesn't like ferro, it seems like such an neutral color to me. I didn't think anyone could dislike it. I am carrying my ferro Roma today and all husband has said is "can you move that big bag of yours!".

doloresmia · Jul 4th, 2009, 07:13 PM

ssc0619, kassandra - it is surprising. what is there not to love about the ferro? i would definitely miss it if i gave her up. at the same time, i hate the fugly face.

baggiana - the ferro is a perfect color, and IMO great for LA when you sometimes don't want to be in all black all the time. i am not a bright color person so ferro works well for me, just not for the DH. he is pretty particular, even when he doesn't say anything, because HE knows how much i love the bag, i know.

kroquet - i would love a cabat, but my DH did not like the reflect :( and had a more violent reaction against it than he does to my wearing the ferro. however, i totally recommend YOU getting one soon as it seems to be on the brain. (is that too enabling?). baggiana is right, the cabat and the new pyramid don't replace one another although the ottone sloane and the ferro new pyramid might :). (NOT in appropriately soliciting your beauty by the way, just saying how much i love the ottone sloane and hope one will pop up for me one day....)

AMJ · Jul 4th, 2009, 07:36 PM

Doloresmia, I got the same problem with you.. my DH HATES grey with everything... (car seat leather, clothings, bags, shoes...count them all!). Personally I like the ferro, but I seldom purchase bags with grey. I do own a lot of stuff with grey color but not in bags... Maybe my DH's strong opinion has influences me in some ways. My DH doesn't common on my bag often unless he thinks that is truly ugly.. Eventually I might sell it in one day.

hotshot · Jul 4th, 2009, 07:38 PM

I sometimes think its important to take your own stand when it comes to a bag since it is so personal and reflects us in many ways.

But if your partner really dislikes it, I probably wouldn't wear it with them or I would
part with it.

kroquet · Jul 4th, 2009, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by ssc0619

It is so interesting to me that he doesn't like ferro, it seems like such an neutral color to me. I didn't think anyone could dislike it. I am carrying my ferro Roma today and all husband has said is "can you move that big bag of yours!".

LOL!!! Now, that made me laugh! Sounds all too familiar!

Louiebabeee · Jul 4th, 2009, 10:15 PM

lol if I loveeed it then I would not get rid of it...he doesnt have to like everything I wear, and I dont have to like everything what he wears. I would be with someone even if I didnt like what they wear

Baggiana · Jul 4th, 2009, 10:25 PM

Originally Posted by doloresmia

ssc0619, kassandra - it is surprising. what is there not to love about the ferro? i would definitely miss it if i gave her up. at the same time, i hate the fugly face.

baggiana - the ferro is a perfect color, and IMO great for LA when you sometimes don't want to be in all black all the time. i am not a bright color person so ferro works well for me, just not for the DH. he is pretty particular, even when he doesn't say anything, because HE knows how much i love the bag, i know.

kroquet - i would love a cabat, but my DH did not like the reflect :( and had a more violent reaction against it than he does to my wearing the ferro. however, i totally recommend YOU getting one soon as it seems to be on the brain. (is that too enabling?). baggiana is right, the cabat and the new pyramid don't replace one another although the ottone sloane and the ferro new pyramid might :). (NOT in appropriately soliciting your beauty by the way, just saying how much i love the ottone sloane and hope one will pop up for me one day....)

To what does he respond positively, doloresmia???... can he tell you, or is it just an "after I see it, I will let you know?" - much harder in that case! The ottone sloane would work, IMO - and maybe an ottone veneta (med.) which can be SO'd for a reasonable amount - or even an ottone pyramid... still reasonable in cost. The ottone sloane/pyramid/veneta would replace both your aurora and ferro bags, is seasonless, and could be worn with black - beautifully as well as your lighter elements in your wardrobe. Since your DH did not like the reflet cabat (which is much more expensive!) and you have already sold your aurora med. veneta - I would strongly suggest that you consider SO-ing an ottone BV - you cannot get more classic - or a more beloved color... just one caveat- your DH should see ottone IRL before you make the move. Is there anyone in your area that has one that you might be able to meet with DH in tow? You might take him to the BV boutiques and see which bags and colors he responds positively to - even let him suggest a few, which may result in an unplanned present!

BTW, which bag is coming???? I was guessing the reflet...

gina2328 · Jul 4th, 2009, 10:25 PM

When my DH first saw my Balenciaga he thought they were butt ugly.

That is not a reason in my mind to get rid of a bag. Now months later he thinks they are so chic.

Even if he did not, they are my bags to wear, and while he has an opinion, he should be gracious and keep it to himself, which he has since after I asked him what he thought. He never states an opinion of my bags unless I ask.

kroquet · Jul 4th, 2009, 10:40 PM

Baggiana - you are the true voice of reason. D - I would also strongly recommend an SO in Ottone. Would be perfection.

ItsMyWorld · Jul 4th, 2009, 10:45 PM

No. I seriously don't care what he thinks whatsoever.

doloresmia · Jul 4th, 2009, 11:19 PM

baggiana - i don't have a reflet on its way to me. DH saw the pix and said eww. i think if he saw it IRL he might like it more, but could not take the risk for that money. the piece on its way to me is an etoupe birkin 35 - my other grail!

kroquet - i would love to SO an ottone piece, but i have to lay low for a little bit to absorb the birkin that is on its way to me. :)

gina - i thought ferro would grow on DH, but a year later, no such luck.

itsmyworld - more power to you babe!

chessmont · Jul 4th, 2009, 11:23 PM

My DH doesn't even notice what I carry - but if he did notice it and didn't like it, well I could care less

IFFAH · Jul 4th, 2009, 11:29 PM

Originally Posted by Louiebabeee

lol if I loveeed it then I would not get rid of it...he doesnt have to like everything I wear, and I dont have to like everything what he wears. I would be with someone even if I didnt like what they wear

Lol, I agree. He should love me more and not my bag.

Jul 4th, 2009, 04:23 PM	#32
Baggiana Member Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 1,991	^^oops! - not a good idea, IMO ... they are not equivalent. I am still surprised... what will you wear with black shoes in the winter... even in LA? Perhaps you already have something. Ferro goes beautifully with the darks/blacks and with the ivory/cream/beige that I see in your reveal pics - a beautiful contrast.... oh dear - what a dilemma! Perhaps you could do as some suggest - wear it only when your DH is not accompanying you...
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Jul 4th, 2009, 07:36 PM	#35
AMJ Member Joined: Jan 2009 Location: CA Posts: 252	Doloresmia, I got the same problem with you.. my DH HATES grey with everything... (car seat leather, clothings, bags, shoes...count them all!). Personally I like the ferro, but I seldom purchase bags with grey. I do own a lot of stuff with grey color but not in bags... Maybe my DH's strong opinion has influences me in some ways. My DH doesn't common on my bag often unless he thinks that is truly ugly.. Eventually I might sell it in one day.
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Jul 4th, 2009, 07:38 PM	#36
hotshot Member Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 2,859	I sometimes think its important to take your own stand when it comes to a bag since it is so personal and reflects us in many ways. But if your partner really dislikes it, I probably wouldn't wear it with them or I would part with it.
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Jul 4th, 2009, 10:15 PM	#38
Louiebabeee Member Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 551	lol if I loveeed it then I would not get rid of it...he doesnt have to like everything I wear, and I dont have to like everything what he wears. I would be with someone even if I didnt like what they wear
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Jul 4th, 2009, 10:25 PM	#40
gina2328 Member Joined: Jul 2007 Location: Michigan Posts: 625	When my DH first saw my Balenciaga he thought they were butt ugly. That is not a reason in my mind to get rid of a bag. Now months later he thinks they are so chic. Even if he did not, they are my bags to wear, and while he has an opinion, he should be gracious and keep it to himself, which he has since after I asked him what he thought. He never states an opinion of my bags unless I ask.
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Jul 4th, 2009, 04:58 PM	#33
ssc0619 Some 'Splainin to Do Joined: Mar 2009 Location: New York Posts: 5,955	It is so interesting to me that he doesn't like ferro, it seems like such an neutral color to me. I didn't think anyone could dislike it. I am carrying my ferro Roma today and all husband has said is "can you move that big bag of yours!".

Jul 4th, 2009, 07:13 PM	#34
doloresmia OP Member Joined: May 2008 Location: SoCal Posts: 7,516	ssc0619, kassandra - it is surprising. what is there not to love about the ferro? i would definitely miss it if i gave her up. at the same time, i hate the fugly face. baggiana - the ferro is a perfect color, and IMO great for LA when you sometimes don't want to be in all black all the time. i am not a bright color person so ferro works well for me, just not for the DH. he is pretty particular, even when he doesn't say anything, because HE knows how much i love the bag, i know. kroquet - i would love a cabat, but my DH did not like the reflect :( and had a more violent reaction against it than he does to my wearing the ferro. however, i totally recommend YOU getting one soon as it seems to be on the brain. (is that too enabling?). baggiana is right, the cabat and the new pyramid don't replace one another although the ottone sloane and the ferro new pyramid might :). (NOT in appropriately soliciting your beauty by the way, just saying how much i love the ottone sloane and hope one will pop up for me one day....)

Jul 4th, 2009, 10:40 PM	#41
kroquet Menopausal M. O. B. Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 9,471	Baggiana - you are the true voice of reason. D - I would also strongly recommend an SO in Ottone. Would be perfection.
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Jul 4th, 2009, 10:45 PM	#42
ItsMyWorld Member Joined: Dec 2006 Location: USA Posts: 4,417	No. I seriously don't care what he thinks whatsoever.

Jul 4th, 2009, 11:19 PM	#43
doloresmia OP Member Joined: May 2008 Location: SoCal Posts: 7,516	baggiana - i don't have a reflet on its way to me. DH saw the pix and said eww. i think if he saw it IRL he might like it more, but could not take the risk for that money. the piece on its way to me is an etoupe birkin 35 - my other grail! kroquet - i would love to SO an ottone piece, but i have to lay low for a little bit to absorb the birkin that is on its way to me. :) gina - i thought ferro would grow on DH, but a year later, no such luck. itsmyworld - more power to you babe!

Jul 4th, 2009, 11:23 PM	#44
chessmont Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: CA, USA Posts: 4,693	My DH doesn't even notice what I carry - but if he did notice it and didn't like it, well I could care less
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