My man doesn't understand. He thinks one bag is enough

Peeking_Around · Sep 7th, 2008, 04:13 PM

MY DH isn't as hard on me about tPF like he used to be months ago -

He's seen me on here so often that it's just normal now.

Though he has said that since I started getting on tPF that my purse buying has rose at least 95%

And ... he's right ... this place is sooo wonderful ... yet so bad on my bank account.

He plays World of Warcraft so if/when he starts to "nag" that I'm on tPF too much - I'll be like "huh? I haven't even seen you in like 2 hours because of WoW." - he usually backs off.

kmh1190 · Sep 7th, 2008, 04:15 PM

Show him some of the threads on the handbag showcase forum and then he'll realize that in the scheme of handbag love that having 2-3 bags aren't that ridiculous!

Compass Rose · Sep 7th, 2008, 04:25 PM

Ask him how many screwdrivers or hammers are enough. I know my hubby would say that one of each just isn't enough.

heqet · Sep 7th, 2008, 04:48 PM

The nagging from my DH has gotten much less over time. I think he finally came to realize it's a losing battle. He has his things (computers, games, sports, etc) and I have mine. Hopefully yours will come to realize as well.

Bike Chick · Sep 7th, 2008, 05:51 PM

Mine doesn't get it either - trying to rationalize doesn't work, and neither does comparing my entire collection as having cost less than one set of race wheels, or the disc wheel for the tt bike. Somehow those things are essentials?!

beeb · Sep 7th, 2008, 06:50 PM

Peeking_Around, you're a WOW-Widow? Oh boy, he has NOTHING to say!

You should get an extra Chicklit on that basis alone!

Susan Lee · Sep 7th, 2008, 07:29 PM

Mine gets it actually, well, to an extent. He collects cars, so he says to friends "I don't give her a hard time about shoes and purses, and she doesn't give me a hard time about cars. We understand each other".

Here's the extent-
When I told him I wanted a ruby LRC he said "Don't you already have a red bag? Why are you looking at red bags?". I had to tell him that the red bag I already own (a Luella Suzi tote-very structured and not something I would carry on a daily basis) is different in utility than the LRC. He just shrugged-he knows I have many brown/black/cream bags and does'nt say a word about those multiples, but I guess color raises his eyebrows?

On another note, he belongs to a few car forums (old and new since he is a car collector), so he doesn't give me flack for being on TPF. He thinks its good to research/discuss items before purchase.

Susan Lee · Sep 7th, 2008, 07:31 PM

Oh, and I did show him a website with a 190,000.00 Hermes croc/pave diamond purse and he almost hit the floor. I reminded him how much my bags typically cost and he said "Thank goodness-I'd have to check you into a treatment facility if you ever contempated one of those!"

TygerKitty · Sep 7th, 2008, 07:48 PM

Diamond encrusted Hermes will get 'em every time!!!

LadyLinda · Sep 7th, 2008, 08:42 PM

Mine doesn't "get" my purse love, either, but I'm so wonderfully accommodating in so many ways--play Civilization and NCAA football video games with him, join his fantasy baseball and football leagues, and have a leather obsession that manifests in other ways he finds fun--that he is reduced to grumbling a bit whenever I parade out with a new handbag. It's like I have this one, expensive thing I do... but we're lockstep in everything else. So my "bag thing" is mystifying and kind of cute.

temo · Sep 8th, 2008, 12:43 AM

Over time, they seem to get used to it. My DH used to be that way and now he acutally points bags out to me and asks "What kind of bag is that?" The ladies he works with (He works with mainly women) tell me that he can actually hold his own in a converstion about handbags too! He know more that some of them!

LadyLouboutin08 · Sep 8th, 2008, 03:02 AM

My SO just shakes when head when I show him my new bags. He has his own obsession with shoes, so he can't really talk.

heather123 · Sep 8th, 2008, 06:21 AM

I used to think like your man when I was about eighteen. I was a poverty-stricken student and could only afford one nice bag at a time. Thank God times have changed!

moi et mes sacs · Sep 8th, 2008, 07:10 AM

My Dh doesnt understand either. if I say I am getting a new bag he reminds me I bought one last week/ month....I have to remind him he buys so many geeky computer things...

h82bl82 · Sep 8th, 2008, 08:12 AM

Mine doesn't get it either. He has his snowboards, I have my bags.

Sep 7th, 2008, 04:13 PM	#16
Peeking_Around Live, Love, Laugh Location: On the east coast~ right on the beach	MY DH isn't as hard on me about tPF like he used to be months ago - He's seen me on here so often that it's just normal now. Though he has said that since I started getting on tPF that my purse buying has rose at least 95% And ... he's right ... this place is sooo wonderful ... yet so bad on my bank account. He plays World of Warcraft so if/when he starts to "nag" that I'm on tPF too much - I'll be like "huh? I haven't even seen you in like 2 hours because of WoW." - he usually backs off. __________________ I love Tano's Wish List: Black or Truffle Tano Boogie Tano Pleasuredome My fur babies:

Sep 7th, 2008, 04:15 PM	#17
kmh1190 Too many flip-flops! Location: Northern California/Central Valley	Show him some of the threads on the handbag showcase forum and then he'll realize that in the scheme of handbag love that having 2-3 bags aren't that ridiculous! __________________ Banned-Can look but cannot buy/touchDefinitely !! This time I mean it! Post ban wants: Tano Streetwalker, RM Devote Tote

Sep 7th, 2008, 04:25 PM	#18
Compass Rose Opie, My Schmopie!! Location: Southwest Florida	Ask him how many screwdrivers or hammers are enough. I know my hubby would say that one of each just isn't enough. __________________ Teddie says......"They'll never find me in here"! Visit Me! www.greenfeatherdesigns.com

Sep 7th, 2008, 04:48 PM	#19
heqet is happy! :) Location: Austin, TX	The nagging from my DH has gotten much less over time. I think he finally came to realize it's a losing battle. He has his things (computers, games, sports, etc) and I have mine. Hopefully yours will come to realize as well. __________________ My Newest Loves:

Sep 7th, 2008, 06:50 PM	#21
beeb love my Tanos!	Peeking_Around, you're a WOW-Widow? Oh boy, he has NOTHING to say! You should get an extra Chicklit on that basis alone! __________________

Sep 7th, 2008, 05:51 PM	#20
Bike Chick Member	Mine doesn't get it either - trying to rationalize doesn't work, and neither does comparing my entire collection as having cost less than one set of race wheels, or the disc wheel for the tt bike. Somehow those things are essentials?!

Sep 7th, 2008, 07:29 PM	#22
Susan Lee C H I L L L Location: Behind the Orange Curtain....Califor..ni...a	Mine gets it actually, well, to an extent. He collects cars, so he says to friends "I don't give her a hard time about shoes and purses, and she doesn't give me a hard time about cars. We understand each other". Here's the extent- When I told him I wanted a ruby LRC he said "Don't you already have a red bag? Why are you looking at red bags?". I had to tell him that the red bag I already own (a Luella Suzi tote-very structured and not something I would carry on a daily basis) is different in utility than the LRC. He just shrugged-he knows I have many brown/black/cream bags and does'nt say a word about those multiples, but I guess color raises his eyebrows? On another note, he belongs to a few car forums (old and new since he is a car collector), so he doesn't give me flack for being on TPF. He thinks its good to research/discuss items before purchase. __________________ Tree Huggin' Nature Lovin' Yoga Posin' Minkette My little collection BBW MAM Wine Matinee GE Matinee Eggplant MAM Marine MAB Wine MAM DG MAM (YAY she is here!!) Wishlist... Silver/Gunmetal studs on the MAM and Devote! Something in Peacock or Sunshine!

Sep 7th, 2008, 07:31 PM	#23
Susan Lee C H I L L L Location: Behind the Orange Curtain....Califor..ni...a	Oh, and I did show him a website with a 190,000.00 Hermes croc/pave diamond purse and he almost hit the floor. I reminded him how much my bags typically cost and he said "Thank goodness-I'd have to check you into a treatment facility if you ever contempated one of those!" __________________ Tree Huggin' Nature Lovin' Yoga Posin' Minkette My little collection BBW MAM Wine Matinee GE Matinee Eggplant MAM Marine MAB Wine MAM DG MAM (YAY she is here!!) Wishlist... Silver/Gunmetal studs on the MAM and Devote! Something in Peacock or Sunshine!

Sep 7th, 2008, 07:48 PM	#24
TygerKitty shopaholic Location: Colorado	Diamond encrusted Hermes will get 'em every time!!! __________________ "Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance." My collection: http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-showcase/tygerkittys-addiction-370238.html Are you artsy and crafty!? Come support the creation of a new arts and crafts subforum! http://forum.purseblog.com/feedback-dropbox/crafties-to-unite-376611-5.html

Sep 7th, 2008, 08:42 PM	#25
LadyLinda Member Location: Philadelphia	Mine doesn't "get" my purse love, either, but I'm so wonderfully accommodating in so many ways--play Civilization and NCAA football video games with him, join his fantasy baseball and football leagues, and have a leather obsession that manifests in other ways he finds fun--that he is reduced to grumbling a bit whenever I parade out with a new handbag. It's like I have this one, expensive thing I do... but we're lockstep in everything else. So my "bag thing" is mystifying and kind of cute.

Sep 8th, 2008, 12:43 AM	#26
temo Member Location: British Columbia	Over time, they seem to get used to it. My DH used to be that way and now he acutally points bags out to me and asks "What kind of bag is that?" The ladies he works with (He works with mainly women) tell me that he can actually hold his own in a converstion about handbags too! He know more that some of them! __________________ *Smile and the world smiles with you . . .* :)

Sep 8th, 2008, 03:02 AM	#27
LadyLouboutin08 Member Location: In my aunt's closet!!	My SO just shakes when head when I show him my new bags. He has his own obsession with shoes, so he can't really talk. __________________

Sep 8th, 2008, 06:21 AM	#28
heather123 Member Location: IRELAND	I used to think like your man when I was about eighteen. I was a poverty-stricken student and could only afford one nice bag at a time. Thank God times have changed!

Sep 8th, 2008, 07:10 AM	#29
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	My Dh doesnt understand either. if I say I am getting a new bag he reminds me I bought one last week/ month....I have to remind him he buys so many geeky computer things... __________________ If you never change your mind, why have one? Edward de Bono

Sep 8th, 2008, 08:12 AM	#30
h82bl82 Cindy Location: Utah	Mine doesn't get it either. He has his snowboards, I have my bags. __________________ The Inukshuk - Symbol of the 2010 Vancouver Winter Olympics