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chikapinku · Oct 28th, 2009, 10:12 AM

Originally Posted by alissahall

My husband, however, still does not understand spending hundreds of dollars on a bag when you could buy a gun instead (his collector's hobby) "and that can kill someone."

I dunno... some of our handbags could do some hefty damage if you hit someone over the head with them, I think!

My friends and family don't understand it either; I have to sneak new bags I buy into the house and lie about how much they cost to not endure endless grief over it, which is not at all enjoyable. It's my own money, I'm not struggling to make ends meet... so it shouldn't matter, but it apparently does. Sigh.

nevadagrl435 · Oct 28th, 2009, 01:07 PM

I often get this attitude too. Not just with handbags though. I buy nicer scrubs for work because they last longer and the stains actually come out of them. I had a coworker outright tell me that she thought I was unaware of what my job entails (I work as a CNA) I told her I was perfectly aware of my job duties but did not think it appropriate to dress poorly (her scrubs were the really cheap kind and were already really stained and two pairs had really noticeable tears in them already) in the presence of patients, who expect the people helping them to look nicer.

There was this guy I liked I went to visit him and he gave me grief over my handbag and doll collection (I also collect American Girl dolls) I thought, okay, whatever. I went to his condo in this posh guarded community and his house is filled with designer furniture and he was wearing a Lacoste polo! My parents are more affluent than him and yet his home is better furnished! I could not get over it, it angered me--spending money on handbags is wrong, but spending the equivalent of a new Chloe Paddington on a king sized bed frame is not wrong.

I have found with experience that people always have their things that they spend money on, and act jealous of those that have what they do not have. The coworker who had the attitude towards my scrubs for instance drives a brand new Neon and her husband owns a brand new Mustang.

Generally I do not care what people spend their money on until they tell me they think I'm frivilous. At that point all bets are off.

CarrieB · Oct 28th, 2009, 01:15 PM

How many times have I sneaked a bag into my home???? Too many to count. How many times have I had to lie about the price??? Even more times. I have my new purchases delivered to work so that I can sneak them home - often they have to hide in the car if my boyfriend is around. It drives me nuts - it's my money!!! I pay my share of the bills, we have no kids, I work full-time and I don't smoke. I can't even confess to my friends (except one or two) as they either don't understand or resent my spending that much money on a bag! Even my mum can't appreciate them as she worries that I'll get myself into debt (I haven't done so far and I'm 43!). That's why I love tPF - it's so nice to be congratulated by fellow tPFers when you post that you've bought a new bag. I want to be able to shout it from the rooftops that I own 2 Chanel handbags - but I can't...

LeeMiller · Oct 28th, 2009, 02:57 PM

Originally Posted by NagaJolokia

I give myself more grief than anyone else.

Me too!! None else does, not even my DH!

YumYummy · Oct 28th, 2009, 03:59 PM

OMG they recently started, my parents especially. I was cleaning out my closet and I lined all my bags up and when my mom walked in, she started to nag me about having so many bags and I recently bought two new ones. She went and told my dad and now they both are on my case, so I avoid shopping with them now, at least for awhile...lol

Oct 28th, 2009, 01:15 PM	#198
CarrieB Member Joined: Feb 2009 Location: Wales, United Kingdom Posts: 123	How many times have I sneaked a bag into my home???? Too many to count. How many times have I had to lie about the price??? Even more times. I have my new purchases delivered to work so that I can sneak them home - often they have to hide in the car if my boyfriend is around. It drives me nuts - it's my money!!! I pay my share of the bills, we have no kids, I work full-time and I don't smoke. I can't even confess to my friends (except one or two) as they either don't understand or resent my spending that much money on a bag! Even my mum can't appreciate them as she worries that I'll get myself into debt (I haven't done so far and I'm 43!). That's why I love tPF - it's so nice to be congratulated by fellow tPFers when you post that you've bought a new bag. I want to be able to shout it from the rooftops that I own 2 Chanel handbags - but I can't...
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Oct 28th, 2009, 03:59 PM	#200
YumYummy Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 17	OMG they recently started, my parents especially. I was cleaning out my closet and I lined all my bags up and when my mom walked in, she started to nag me about having so many bags and I recently bought two new ones. She went and told my dad and now they both are on my case, so I avoid shopping with them now, at least for awhile...lol
YumYummy Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 17

Oct 28th, 2009, 01:07 PM	#197
nevadagrl435 Member Joined: Oct 2009 Location: Salt Lake City but from Las Vegas Posts: 27	I often get this attitude too. Not just with handbags though. I buy nicer scrubs for work because they last longer and the stains actually come out of them. I had a coworker outright tell me that she thought I was unaware of what my job entails (I work as a CNA) I told her I was perfectly aware of my job duties but did not think it appropriate to dress poorly (her scrubs were the really cheap kind and were already really stained and two pairs had really noticeable tears in them already) in the presence of patients, who expect the people helping them to look nicer. There was this guy I liked I went to visit him and he gave me grief over my handbag and doll collection (I also collect American Girl dolls) I thought, okay, whatever. I went to his condo in this posh guarded community and his house is filled with designer furniture and he was wearing a Lacoste polo! My parents are more affluent than him and yet his home is better furnished! I could not get over it, it angered me--spending money on handbags is wrong, but spending the equivalent of a new Chloe Paddington on a king sized bed frame is not wrong. I have found with experience that people always have their things that they spend money on, and act jealous of those that have what they do not have. The coworker who had the attitude towards my scrubs for instance drives a brand new Neon and her husband owns a brand new Mustang. Generally I do not care what people spend their money on until they tell me they think I'm frivilous. At that point all bets are off.

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