i saw this article on the ny times online:
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/28/f...83&ei=5124&partner=permalink&exprod=permalink
any of you mama's girls? i definitely go shopping with my mom
and take her fashion advice... she's still a stylin' woman at 55!
here's a couple of paragraphs from the article:
June 28, 2007
Mommy Is Truly Dearest
By STEPHANIE ROSENBLOOM
I TELL her everything.
She always takes a middle-of-the-night call.
Im not comfortable not speaking to her every day.
The women who uttered those words professionals in their 20s and 30s were not talking about their shrinks. They were talking about their mothers.
Alison Cochrane, 30, who teaches English as a second language in Flushing, Queens, has a boyfriend and a coterie of friends on whom to lean. Nevertheless she calls her mother, Denise Martinez, 54, at least four times a day.
Shes the first person I tell everything to, Ms. Cochrane said.
And she means everything.
I talk to my mother about sex, Ms. Cochrane said. Intimately. I can say Mom, Joe is absolutely amazing. And Im not embarrassed. (The same cannot be said for Joe.)
There have always been close-knit mother-daughter relationships. But social, demographic and technological changes have made it more common for adult daughters to keep their mothers apron strings tied tighter and for longer, say researchers who study the transition into young adulthood.
Today, it is not unusual for unmarried middle-class women in their 20s or 30s to share with their mothers the diary-worthy details of their lives, plan weekly outings with them and call the Mommy Batphone when they need backup.
Even Paris Hilton who has been labeled many things, though never a mommas girl revealed that it is her mother, Kathy Hilton, to whom she turns in a crisis. When last month a judge ordered the 26-year-old back to jail, she did not call out for a lover, her lawyer or God. In her hour of need, she cried, Mom! Upon being released Tuesday, she ran into her mothers arms.
Developmental psychologists and sociologists say this phenomenon of attachment is only now beginning to be studied. They have identified several factors that could be contributing to an intensified mother-daughter symbiosis: technology that makes it easy to stay connected; the smaller number of children in each household; young adults who are prolonging decisions about career, marriage and children; parents who want to have a less-hierarchical relationship with their offspring; and parents who feel the need to keep their grown children close at a time when anxiety and depression levels among young adults are at some of their highest points ever.
Additionally, parent-child contact during the college years has dramatically increased. Professors say that many students these days stroll around campus talking into cellphones and not to one another. It is not surprising, experts say, that some of that behavior spills over into the post-college years, including a reliance on parents to continue to pay the bills.
There is a higher level of dependence, said Vivian Gadsden, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania Graduate School of Education. In that way they are very much a product of this period in our history.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/28/f...83&ei=5124&partner=permalink&exprod=permalink
any of you mama's girls? i definitely go shopping with my mom
and take her fashion advice... she's still a stylin' woman at 55!here's a couple of paragraphs from the article:
June 28, 2007
Mommy Is Truly Dearest
By STEPHANIE ROSENBLOOM
I TELL her everything.
She always takes a middle-of-the-night call.
Im not comfortable not speaking to her every day.
The women who uttered those words professionals in their 20s and 30s were not talking about their shrinks. They were talking about their mothers.
Alison Cochrane, 30, who teaches English as a second language in Flushing, Queens, has a boyfriend and a coterie of friends on whom to lean. Nevertheless she calls her mother, Denise Martinez, 54, at least four times a day.
Shes the first person I tell everything to, Ms. Cochrane said.
And she means everything.
I talk to my mother about sex, Ms. Cochrane said. Intimately. I can say Mom, Joe is absolutely amazing. And Im not embarrassed. (The same cannot be said for Joe.)
There have always been close-knit mother-daughter relationships. But social, demographic and technological changes have made it more common for adult daughters to keep their mothers apron strings tied tighter and for longer, say researchers who study the transition into young adulthood.
Today, it is not unusual for unmarried middle-class women in their 20s or 30s to share with their mothers the diary-worthy details of their lives, plan weekly outings with them and call the Mommy Batphone when they need backup.
Even Paris Hilton who has been labeled many things, though never a mommas girl revealed that it is her mother, Kathy Hilton, to whom she turns in a crisis. When last month a judge ordered the 26-year-old back to jail, she did not call out for a lover, her lawyer or God. In her hour of need, she cried, Mom! Upon being released Tuesday, she ran into her mothers arms.
Developmental psychologists and sociologists say this phenomenon of attachment is only now beginning to be studied. They have identified several factors that could be contributing to an intensified mother-daughter symbiosis: technology that makes it easy to stay connected; the smaller number of children in each household; young adults who are prolonging decisions about career, marriage and children; parents who want to have a less-hierarchical relationship with their offspring; and parents who feel the need to keep their grown children close at a time when anxiety and depression levels among young adults are at some of their highest points ever.
Additionally, parent-child contact during the college years has dramatically increased. Professors say that many students these days stroll around campus talking into cellphones and not to one another. It is not surprising, experts say, that some of that behavior spills over into the post-college years, including a reliance on parents to continue to pay the bills.
There is a higher level of dependence, said Vivian Gadsden, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania Graduate School of Education. In that way they are very much a product of this period in our history.
). you must be the best mom ever!