I have been dating my boyfriend for 17 months and it seems like I dont get along with his friends. I dont hate them or anything; they are nice people but we just dont have anything in common. Last night after going to dinner with 4 of his friends I got really upset because I was just sitting there for 2 hours listening to them talk about things and people I dont know. Their conversations will pretty much only be about people I havent met or they will talk about motorcycle related stuff. That is it! It just seems kind of rude. I really feel so unwelcome around them. Isnt it common courteous when you are with friends and someone new is there to talk about things everyone can discuss? I know my friends and I do that. We have millions of inside jokes we talk about when it is just us, but if someone new is there they are never brought up. It is getting to be a problem because I dont want to hang out with them. I would never tell my boyfriend he cant hang out with them though. I wouldnt mind if I just stayed home but he always wants me to come along. He says I need to talk more so I feel like I am to blame. They probably think I am a huge witch for not talking, but I cant chime in with anything because I am completely clueless about who or what they are discussing. I am shy too so it does take me awhile to warm up to people but a year and a half seems a little long and I should be comfortable around them by now. My boyfriend friends wives are even a bigger problem! I won't even get into that. It is just really frustrating and makes me feel bad about myself and second guess our relationship. Uggh.
(Sorry to vent!)
How do you guys deal with your SOs friends???
(Sorry to vent!)
How do you guys deal with your SOs friends???