Wow I have talked to all my best friends about this and they have helped but I have decided to seek out in tPF also!
So basically im 17 years old ...turning 18 in october...and ive been with my boyfriend since november 2004, a little after my 15th birthday, which comes to almost 2 1/2 years. We get along really well but I think our feelings are starting to change for each other. Before him I was a huge party girl, always going out with my friends, shopping all the time ...I was basically living the life of an IT girl which was nice, but he came along and swept me off my feet . He always tells me he loves me and our relationship has always been serious; he tells me I am the only girl he will ever love and if I leave him/we break up he will always miss the love of his life. All this sounds great, but his actions do not meet his words. He recently started acting veryy weird...this boy is NOT a party guy and he *suddenly* wants to go out with his friends (who are annoying hockey-playing idiot losers lol) every friday night. And they always go out to the. same. effing. place. and its so boring! When we go out together, he never dances he just kinda sits in a corner drinks a little and watches me dance, which is kinda weird when you think about it. But his friends keep raving about how *fun* it is when he comes out with them blah blah blah but my bf claims to me that he does the same thing even when im not present. The worst part is I feel like he doesnt treat me with the respect I deserve. I turn down invitations from friends all the time to be with him but whenever his friends decided that THEY are going out and thats hes coming, nothing can be done to keep him here. 2 things have been bothering me. We went to high school together but now we go to different colleges and I started at mine last fall and hes in his second year. He has met like ONE of my new friends from school, and 2 fridays ago it was one of my really good friend's birthday. I asked him 2 weeks ahead to plan on going out with us for that night and he said it was fine. Thursday, freaking 24 hours before he tells me well im going out with my friends on friday is that ok yeah bye....So I had basically told 10-15 people that were coming that they were gonna meet my boyfriend and they were all like soo where is he? I was like hmm well he couldnt come you know something came up... So for the first 10-15 minutes of the night I felt like hiding in the bathroom and crying lol...Second of all ...the last 3 fridays he has gone out with his friends and ive gone out with mine ...friday night before we go out I call him and im like "Hey do you want us to see each other tomorrow afternoon, or youre gonna be sleeping off your night?" He tells me no no ill be fine lets meet at your house at 12 for lunch. I go out, go back and sleep at my friends house downtown, so I get up early to go all the way back to the south shore (I live on the south shore of montreal) to lunch together ...he FINALLY shows up at 1 oclock and instead of having a nice afternoon together he ends up sleeping/vomiting all afternoon!!!!! 3 WEEKENDS IN A ROW! It just makes me so effing mad because I made an effort to come see him I mean I wouldve like to keep sleeping at my friends house too...
So I dont really know what to do ...I dont know if im wasting my time and youth on him; I basically gave up my old lifestyle to have a couples lifestyle with him and I dont regret it at all, I just dont understand why hes suddenly acting like this ...I offered him to leave the relationship the other day if he wants this "single guy" lifestyle (all his loser friends have no girlfriends...I wonder why ) and he said of course not I love you blah blah...what do you guys think am I overreacting or am I allowed to be a little pissed off? (Wow sorry its so looooong!)
So basically im 17 years old ...turning 18 in october...and ive been with my boyfriend since november 2004, a little after my 15th birthday, which comes to almost 2 1/2 years. We get along really well but I think our feelings are starting to change for each other. Before him I was a huge party girl, always going out with my friends, shopping all the time ...I was basically living the life of an IT girl which was nice, but he came along and swept me off my feet . He always tells me he loves me and our relationship has always been serious; he tells me I am the only girl he will ever love and if I leave him/we break up he will always miss the love of his life. All this sounds great, but his actions do not meet his words. He recently started acting veryy weird...this boy is NOT a party guy and he *suddenly* wants to go out with his friends (who are annoying hockey-playing idiot losers lol) every friday night. And they always go out to the. same. effing. place. and its so boring! When we go out together, he never dances he just kinda sits in a corner drinks a little and watches me dance, which is kinda weird when you think about it. But his friends keep raving about how *fun* it is when he comes out with them blah blah blah but my bf claims to me that he does the same thing even when im not present. The worst part is I feel like he doesnt treat me with the respect I deserve. I turn down invitations from friends all the time to be with him but whenever his friends decided that THEY are going out and thats hes coming, nothing can be done to keep him here. 2 things have been bothering me. We went to high school together but now we go to different colleges and I started at mine last fall and hes in his second year. He has met like ONE of my new friends from school, and 2 fridays ago it was one of my really good friend's birthday. I asked him 2 weeks ahead to plan on going out with us for that night and he said it was fine. Thursday, freaking 24 hours before he tells me well im going out with my friends on friday is that ok yeah bye....So I had basically told 10-15 people that were coming that they were gonna meet my boyfriend and they were all like soo where is he? I was like hmm well he couldnt come you know something came up... So for the first 10-15 minutes of the night I felt like hiding in the bathroom and crying lol...Second of all ...the last 3 fridays he has gone out with his friends and ive gone out with mine ...friday night before we go out I call him and im like "Hey do you want us to see each other tomorrow afternoon, or youre gonna be sleeping off your night?" He tells me no no ill be fine lets meet at your house at 12 for lunch. I go out, go back and sleep at my friends house downtown, so I get up early to go all the way back to the south shore (I live on the south shore of montreal) to lunch together ...he FINALLY shows up at 1 oclock and instead of having a nice afternoon together he ends up sleeping/vomiting all afternoon!!!!! 3 WEEKENDS IN A ROW! It just makes me so effing mad because I made an effort to come see him I mean I wouldve like to keep sleeping at my friends house too...
So I dont really know what to do ...I dont know if im wasting my time and youth on him; I basically gave up my old lifestyle to have a couples lifestyle with him and I dont regret it at all, I just dont understand why hes suddenly acting like this ...I offered him to leave the relationship the other day if he wants this "single guy" lifestyle (all his loser friends have no girlfriends...I wonder why ) and he said of course not I love you blah blah...what do you guys think am I overreacting or am I allowed to be a little pissed off? (Wow sorry its so looooong!)