"Your girlfriend looks like she's been hitting up the BUFFET BAR"..I'm so upset!!!!!!

[bagnshoofetish]

many people can be mean. I can't count the things I heard growing up. unfortunately, it doesn't always stop once you are out of school but it does lessen quite a bit because most people do grow up.
teach her now to throw out the bad and focus on the good. tell her to focus on all her friends and family who love her and see how that outnumbers the haters in the world. those kinds of people end up alienating a lot of people sooner or later. it just doesn't work.
as for the alcoholic father, he is a sick man. alcoholics don't have an edit button unfortunately. just learn to have some compassion for his condition because the man hates himself already believe me.
I am glad to know she has a sister like you.

[jenbuggy85]

Every single one of you are amazing : ) You made me cry! LOL Thanks everyone!

[MichelleAntonia]

Originally Posted by jenbuggy85

Why are ppl like this????? Why? For an adult man to say something like that?? I can "kinda" understand kids saying something stupid like that. But an adult?? :(

just because he's an adult does not mean he's got an ounce of decency or virtue. your sister and her boyfriend really have to laugh in this a-hole's face. i bet he looks like george clooney or jon hamm...?

there are fully grown idiots out there who will take cheap shots at kids and those are the most pathetic of the pathetic.

[kavnadoo]

It's so sad because as much as you tell her otherwise, it is hard for a young girl to get stuff like that out of her head.

[jenbuggy85]

Originally Posted by kavnadoo

It's so sad because as much as you tell her otherwise, it is hard for a young girl to get stuff like that out of her head.

This is so..soooooo true :(

[oopsmyshoes]

I have to agree with kavnadoo. Those words, especially at that age, can cut deep. You'd be surprised how long something like that will stick with her (trust me, I've been in her shoes). I definitely suggest having a little heart-to-heart with her if she's willing. You're a great sis for being so caring & supportive

[claireZk]

I've had weight issues all my life and I can tell you, yes kids can be cruel, but the most hurtful comments I ever got as a child were from thoughtless, insensitive ADULTS

[handbag_fetish]

Originally Posted by jenbuggy85

I'm sorry.. I HAVE to rant for awhile. So my mom calls me today, She tells me that my sister is having a really hard day. My sister is 15. I ask my mom "why mom? what happend?" My mom tells me that my sisters boyfriends dad told him that 'it looks like you girlfriend has been hitting up the buffet bar..is she preggo?" This was from his DRUNK of a father. Her boyfriend and his dad got in a huge fight about it... Then he told her what his dad had said. I guess also.. her boyfriend is getting teased to.. They're calling him a "chubby chaser" Thats not the only thing... A few days ago it was "superhero day" at school. She made a really cute costume to look like superman. Well, some little turd told her that she was to fat to wear that. She came home and mom asked how her day went and if she won anything for her costume. My sister said "no, not really". Then my mom wanted to see the pics she had taken from that day. My sister then told her what the turd said. And that she erased all of the pics she had taken because she didn't want to be reminded of it. I am so upset. My sister is 5' 8" tall and weighs 160. Why are ppl like this????? Why? For an adult man to say something like that?? I can "kinda" understand kids saying something stupid like that. But an adult?? I didn't have the weight problems in school... but I did get teased all the time about my hair. I was called anything from a mut, shaggy, the N word..ect. And knowing how much that hurt, I coudn't imagine how much it hurts to be teased about your weight. Her is my BEAUTIFULL sister and her Oh so sweet boyfriend :) Sorry.. I was rushing when I wrote this. It's poorly written, I know :(

She shouldnt feel too bad cause she has somebody who finds her attractive- her boyfriend. I think its wrong to make fun of people about their weight but then again, if thats all they are making fun of you for, its not really a big deal. You can change weight fairly easy compared to some of the things people get made fun of for. She should loose some weight not because of the stupid people but because she will feel better about herself and its more healthy.

[venusfly]

Too many people involved in this....her boyfriend should have simply told his Dad he was being an insensitive ass and that he was fine with his girlfriend's weight and let that be the end of it. Why repeat what Dad said to his GF or anyone else? It could only hurt her feelings, which in fact, it obviously did.

[LAltiero85]

Ugh...I'm so sorry your sister had to deal with this....I didn't see her pic, but I'm sure she's gorgeous, and all that matters is that she is comfortable w/ herself. That's really hard for a girl her age. It's sad that an adult would make a comment to a teen like that....what an a$$.

[natalie78]

Originally Posted by handbag_fetish

I think its wrong to make fun of people about their weight but then again, if thats all they are making fun of you for, its not really a big deal. You can change weight fairly easy compared to some of the things people get made fun of for. She should loose some weight not because of the stupid people but because she will feel better about herself and its more healthy.

That's the kind of attitude that causes problems for people like her. Having someone tell her that the teasing is "not really a big deal" does not help at all. To her, it is a big deal. Who are you to say that it's not? And as for your last statement, I won't even go there. Perhaps you will reconsider your stance when you mature a bit.

[meganfm]

Your poor sister. I know exactly what she's going through. I was actually heavy in high school (5ft8-5ft10 and 185lbs) and I was teased CONSTANTLY about my weight. Guys at school loved to point out the fact that I was fat. There were a couple of times where I went home from school in the middle of the day because I couldn't take the teasing. At one point when I was visiting family in Scotland my grandma told me "You shouldn't eat so much or you're going to get fatter". I was HORRIFIED.

It's good your sister has such a great boyfriend to be there to support her-that will help her a lot :) Tell her she's beautiful and that kids are just idiots, they will ALWAYS find something to tease people about. As for the father....he's just a total JERK.

[handbag_fetish]

Originally Posted by natalie78

That's the kind of attitude that causes problems for people like her. Having someone tell her that the teasing is "not really a big deal" does not help at all. To her, it is a big deal. Who are you to say that it's not? And as for your last statement, I won't even go there. Perhaps you will reconsider your stance when you mature a bit.

I am mature, thank you. Maybe you shouldnt be so judgmental. And Im saying maybe it is a big deal to her but she should think about those people who are stuck with something for the rest of their life that they cannot change. They will get made fun of and there is really nothing they can do about it. Like ethnicity, or their voice, or a disease they have, or being mentally retarded. Weight can be changed fairly easily. So Im saying she should think about those people and then she will realize that being a little over weight is not really a big deal. And as for the last statement I made, yes, you are at a higher risk for many diseases by being overweight. Nobody says that being overweight is a good thing. Its not about how people think being overweight is unattractive or whatever, in the end its about health. And as a bonus, not saying she shouldnt feel good about herself now, but she would boost her self-esteem by loosing weight and staying healthy.

[natalie78]

^Yep, that's maturity at it's best.

[heart goes boOm]

Originally Posted by handbag_fetish

I am mature, thank you. Maybe you shouldnt be so judgmental. And Im saying maybe it is a big deal to her but she should think about those people who are stuck with something for the rest of their life that they cannot change. They will get made fun of and there is really nothing they can do about it. Like ethnicity, or their voice, or a disease they have, or being mentally retarded. Weight can be changed fairly easily. So Im saying she should think about those people and then she will realize that being a little over weight is not really a big deal. And as for the last statement I made, yes, you are at a higher risk for many diseases by being overweight. Nobody says that being overweight is a good thing. Its not about how people think being overweight is unattractive or whatever, in the end its about health. And as a bonus, not saying she shouldnt feel good about herself now, but she would boost her self-esteem by loosing weight and staying healthy.

look, it's a big deal to her. no need to minimize it by saying think of all the other people who has worse things going on. how do you feel when someone does something to hurt your feelings? do you tell yourself, oh, it's okay... at least i don't have cancer or at least i'm not mentally retarded? no, that doesn't make you feel better. people's insensitivity is hard to brush off. and yea, being overweight is not healthy... but the op's sister is NOT overweight.