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pinkinthecity · Oct 28th, 2009, 03:48 PM

No, I would not take the job. It is simply not worth it. I would consider it if I did not have to come in contact with the boss, but if you need to come in contact with her everyday and she is the nightmare you claim she is, I would stay away.

You are at your job 40 hours a week, possibly more. Would you really want to put yourself through that stress for 40 hours a week of your life when you are already at the advantage of knowing the type of person you would be working for? I have a friend who worked with a director of an investment bank with a severe Type A personality that she found out about on her first day on the job, and after the director made her cry on three separate occasions within a span of a week, she quit. He pretty much blamed her for anything and everything that went wrong with his deals and she was his punching bag. Not fun.

plumaplomb · Oct 28th, 2009, 05:35 PM

Truthfully, I would take it and start looking for another job. It would probably be great practice of dealing with horrible people -- and your next job will feel like heaven in comparison. That's just me though. I'd rather be employed than not.

agile · Oct 28th, 2009, 08:19 PM

Regardless of whether I needed the money desperately or that it is a job that is a major stepping stone in my career, I would NEVER take a job like this. Sorry, but life is too short and you should not have to hate going to your job everyday because of your boss. That's just me.

CCfor C · Oct 28th, 2009, 08:29 PM

Frankly, I get the heevie-jeebies just thinking about it. I am a rather meek person, in that I don't like confrontation OR being yelled at. So I wouldn't be happy at all in an environment like this. I feel I'm strong enough not to crumble at criticism and will take things and let them roll off my back, as you have to in any job, BUT being under constant stress like this would be terrible for one's health and well-being. IMO.

Carmen82 · Oct 28th, 2009, 09:39 PM

I agree..do not take the job if you don't need the money..it just isn't worth it to dread going into work every day since you spend a big chunk of your day there.

ShopGirl647 · Oct 29th, 2009, 10:46 AM

no way for me whether money is an issue or not. i had one when working in an office back in high school days during the summer to earn extra cash. I quit after 2 weeks cuz I feel that spending 8 or more hrs at work is something to consider when making the decision. imagine trying to tolerate someone everyday for 8 hrs!!! even the most tolerable or patient person in the world will go bonkers ... plus the earlier i quit, the more chance i had with the next job I found!!!

fashionistaO · Oct 29th, 2009, 08:55 PM

.. too may hours in the workday to be subjected to a non-conducive work enviornment.
.. no way will you be productive .. money is no object .. i'd say NOPE, NADA, NIET ...

fabae · Oct 29th, 2009, 10:14 PM

I had a boss who was a nightmare - screaming at me until I cried (I'm talking 45 minutes once), ignoring me at other times, refusing to acknowledge accomplishments, expecting me to go to work on Saturday. (I'm a teacher!) I cannot even tell you the hell that was my job. I left.

If you don't need the money, you don't need this job.

sarasmith3269 · Oct 29th, 2009, 10:37 PM

Im almost in a similar position. I am going to school for and being trained to do a new position under a new hr manager we recently had (we never had an hr dept before - small company). I hate her. I cant stand to be with her for even an hour. not because she's mean, but b/c shes an idiot. It takes her an hour to grasp a concept, and you cant just tell her, that somethings wrong, you have to really really go into detail and explain it...she has meetings about clip art for crying out loud. Seriously, she will schedule a meeting with me (who is much below her although longer employed) about the clip art she has chosen. if i present ANY type of arguement/objection/2nd thought about the art, she will seriously hold a debate with me for at least 15 minutes!

The new position will pay approx. 10-20k more a year, and the experience is insanely valuable...but i know that i will only be accepting the position so that i can put it on my resume...which is terrible, b/c i really REALLY love the company i work for. I just know I cannot work with her, day in/day out.

SPOILEDkiwi · Oct 30th, 2009, 04:15 AM

Thanks for all of the great responses everyone! I've decided that there's no way I'm taking the job. I was leaning towards this decision from the beginning but I was worried that I would be passing up such a great opportunity because I'm scared. But, I'm the type of person who takes things very personally and I know this job would take a huge toll on me. After reading all of the great advice you guys have given me, I realize it's just not worth it.

ProfNot · Oct 31st, 2009, 12:26 PM

This happened to me.

I went to an interview for a manager position. I would have been directly under the owner.

I got there early (of course

) and watched him cuss out 2 employees. Nooooo way was I going to take this job.

But a mutual colleague had set up the interview so I had to play it through.

He wanted to hire me on the spot (of course

).

So I just quoted a super high wage.
And that was that.

A couple of months later I discovered the mutual colleague decided to take the job herself. Fine - she has a thicker skin than me.

But several months after that the jerk sued her! He accused her of embezzlement!

She had to hire a lawyer.

Yikes!

So, OP, get out of there FAST!

elizat · Nov 1st, 2009, 08:25 AM

Originally Posted by SPOILEDkiwi

Thanks for all of the great responses everyone! I've decided that there's no way I'm taking the job. I was leaning towards this decision from the beginning but I was worried that I would be passing up such a great opportunity because I'm scared. But, I'm the type of person who takes things very personally and I know this job would take a huge toll on me. After reading all of the great advice you guys have given me, I realize it's just not worth it.

Good call. We spend too much time at work to be unhappy, with a terrible boss, etc. I am switching jobs b/c I have a better opportunity, but also because my two immediate bosses are very unpleasant and nasty men. I think you'd have regretted it in the end, knowing what you do going in.

jwhitlock · Nov 1st, 2009, 08:44 PM

GREAT CALL! You would be setting yourself up for a nightmare.... followed by tears and regret. First impressions usually are the right ones.

Sophie-Rose · Nov 2nd, 2009, 07:49 AM

NO WAY!!!!!! dreading going to work in the mornings is NO WAY to live!

bellafleur · Nov 2nd, 2009, 06:16 PM

I spent about 2 years dealing with this at my current job, which is how long it took me to learn what the heck I was doing and figure out to deal with my boss. The first year he made me cry at least, oh, twice a week. I've been here for 5 years, mostly because I couldn't find anything else, and it did get a lot better, though I still feel undervalued and not appreciated. Was it worth the stress? Probably not. I did prove to myself that I could handle it, though, which taught me a lot about myself. But if I had the choice between my boss and a better one, I'm sure you know what I would have done. A lot of times we don't have a choice. If you do, then you are lucky!

Oct 28th, 2009, 03:48 PM	#31
pinkinthecity All That Glitters ♥ Joined: Dec 2007 Location: New York City Posts: 794	No, I would not take the job. It is simply not worth it. I would consider it if I did not have to come in contact with the boss, but if you need to come in contact with her everyday and she is the nightmare you claim she is, I would stay away. You are at your job 40 hours a week, possibly more. Would you really want to put yourself through that stress for 40 hours a week of your life when you are already at the advantage of knowing the type of person you would be working for? I have a friend who worked with a director of an investment bank with a severe Type A personality that she found out about on her first day on the job, and after the director made her cry on three separate occasions within a span of a week, she quit. He pretty much blamed her for anything and everything that went wrong with his deals and she was his punching bag. Not fun.
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Oct 28th, 2009, 05:35 PM	#32
plumaplomb Member Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 2,926	Truthfully, I would take it and start looking for another job. It would probably be great practice of dealing with horrible people -- and your next job will feel like heaven in comparison. That's just me though. I'd rather be employed than not.
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Oct 28th, 2009, 08:19 PM	#33
agile Member Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 268	Regardless of whether I needed the money desperately or that it is a job that is a major stepping stone in my career, I would NEVER take a job like this. Sorry, but life is too short and you should not have to hate going to your job everyday because of your boss. That's just me.
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Oct 28th, 2009, 08:29 PM	#34
CCfor C Gobble gobble! Joined: Mar 2007 Posts: 2,316	Frankly, I get the heevie-jeebies just thinking about it. I am a rather meek person, in that I don't like confrontation OR being yelled at. So I wouldn't be happy at all in an environment like this. I feel I'm strong enough not to crumble at criticism and will take things and let them roll off my back, as you have to in any job, BUT being under constant stress like this would be terrible for one's health and well-being. IMO.
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Oct 28th, 2009, 09:39 PM	#35
Carmen82 Member Joined: May 2007 Posts: 3,055	I agree..do not take the job if you don't need the money..it just isn't worth it to dread going into work every day since you spend a big chunk of your day there.
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Oct 29th, 2009, 10:46 AM	#36
ShopGirl647 Member Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,201	no way for me whether money is an issue or not. i had one when working in an office back in high school days during the summer to earn extra cash. I quit after 2 weeks cuz I feel that spending 8 or more hrs at work is something to consider when making the decision. imagine trying to tolerate someone everyday for 8 hrs!!! even the most tolerable or patient person in the world will go bonkers ... plus the earlier i quit, the more chance i had with the next job I found!!!
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Oct 29th, 2009, 08:55 PM	#37
fashionistaO Member Joined: Oct 2007 Location: 88888888 Posts: 1,734	.. too may hours in the workday to be subjected to a non-conducive work enviornment. .. no way will you be productive .. money is no object .. i'd say NOPE, NADA, NIET ...
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Oct 29th, 2009, 10:14 PM	#38
fabae Member Joined: Jun 2006 Location: The South Posts: 1,646	I had a boss who was a nightmare - screaming at me until I cried (I'm talking 45 minutes once), ignoring me at other times, refusing to acknowledge accomplishments, expecting me to go to work on Saturday. (I'm a teacher!) I cannot even tell you the hell that was my job. I left. If you don't need the money, you don't need this job.
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Oct 29th, 2009, 10:37 PM	#39
sarasmith3269 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 686	Im almost in a similar position. I am going to school for and being trained to do a new position under a new hr manager we recently had (we never had an hr dept before - small company). I hate her. I cant stand to be with her for even an hour. not because she's mean, but b/c shes an idiot. It takes her an hour to grasp a concept, and you cant just tell her, that somethings wrong, you have to really really go into detail and explain it...she has meetings about clip art for crying out loud. Seriously, she will schedule a meeting with me (who is much below her although longer employed) about the clip art she has chosen. if i present ANY type of arguement/objection/2nd thought about the art, she will seriously hold a debate with me for at least 15 minutes! The new position will pay approx. 10-20k more a year, and the experience is insanely valuable...but i know that i will only be accepting the position so that i can put it on my resume...which is terrible, b/c i really REALLY love the company i work for. I just know I cannot work with her, day in/day out.
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Oct 30th, 2009, 04:15 AM	#40
SPOILEDkiwi OP not a kiwi! Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,285	Thanks for all of the great responses everyone! I've decided that there's no way I'm taking the job. I was leaning towards this decision from the beginning but I was worried that I would be passing up such a great opportunity because I'm scared. But, I'm the type of person who takes things very personally and I know this job would take a huge toll on me. After reading all of the great advice you guys have given me, I realize it's just not worth it.
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Oct 31st, 2009, 12:26 PM	#41
ProfNot Sylvie Guillem fan Joined: May 2006 Location: Vancouver Posts: 1,851	This happened to me. I went to an interview for a manager position. I would have been directly under the owner. I got there early (of course ) and watched him cuss out 2 employees. Nooooo way was I going to take this job. But a mutual colleague had set up the interview so I had to play it through. He wanted to hire me on the spot (of course ). So I just quoted a super high wage. And that was that. A couple of months later I discovered the mutual colleague decided to take the job herself. Fine - she has a thicker skin than me. But several months after that the jerk sued her! He accused her of embezzlement! She had to hire a lawyer. Yikes! So, OP, get out of there FAST!

Nov 1st, 2009, 08:44 PM	#43
jwhitlock Delicious Joined: Aug 2009 Location: Southeast of Disorder, MD Posts: 506	GREAT CALL! You would be setting yourself up for a nightmare.... followed by tears and regret. First impressions usually are the right ones.
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Nov 2nd, 2009, 07:49 AM	#44
Sophie-Rose Member Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 3,899	NO WAY!!!!!! dreading going to work in the mornings is NO WAY to live!
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Nov 2nd, 2009, 06:16 PM	#45
bellafleur Member Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,620	I spent about 2 years dealing with this at my current job, which is how long it took me to learn what the heck I was doing and figure out to deal with my boss. The first year he made me cry at least, oh, twice a week. I've been here for 5 years, mostly because I couldn't find anything else, and it did get a lot better, though I still feel undervalued and not appreciated. Was it worth the stress? Probably not. I did prove to myself that I could handle it, though, which taught me a lot about myself. But if I had the choice between my boss and a better one, I'm sure you know what I would have done. A lot of times we don't have a choice. If you do, then you are lucky!
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