Our Very Own: Purse Secret - Page 6

twiggers · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:00 PM

My bad....one last one just came in:

I feel like I'm depressed but I'm afraid to get help.

Sometimes I buy purses and accessories to fill a void inside me...it's the only thing that cheers me up sometimes.

I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm a college graduate, I'm in grad school now, and I'm just not sure if I'll ever find a career I'll enjoy.

twiggers · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by twiggers

My bad....one last one just came in:

I feel like I'm depressed but I'm afraid to get help.

Sometimes I buy purses and accessories to fill a void inside me...it's the only thing that cheers me up sometimes.

I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm a college graduate, I'm in grad school now, and I'm just not sure if I'll ever find a career I'll enjoy.

Oh sweetie *HUGS* I would recommend trying to reach out to a professional that you trust for help with the depression. There are great drugs out there that really and truly can help!!!! Even your OB/GYN can help...or any other doctor you feel comfortable talking to!!!! I think maybe the depression may be affecting everything else you are having problems with *HUGS* If you ever need someone to talk to....please PM me!!!
I noticed you said you were in grad school....most college campuses will have a counseling center that grad students can also use. It's free and completely confidential. I would recommend going and talking to someone there!

wordpast · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by twiggers

Last One For Tonight (All were from the same email):

I am afraid my Fiance only wants to marry me because my Father has money.

I never let anyone see me cry.

I weigh 400 pounds and I can't stop eating.

I'm always told I am beautiful but cry myself to sleep every night because I hate the way I look.

I buy expensive purses to try to get people to look at those instead of me.

I hate myself.

I am 27 years old and have never had sex.

I feel that my Fiance is disgusted by me.

I buy people expensive things to get them to like me.

I lie to my social worker.

(((HUGS)))

The buying expensive things, the buying people expensive things, the hating yourself, even the over eating,maybe stems from low self esteem. You're using all these things to OVERcompensate for what you lack in self worth and self love. PLEASE DON'T LIE TO YOUR SOCIAL WORKER. He/she is there to help you. Not judge you. You're just hindering your treatment by lying.

Don't be afraid to cry in front on anyone. EVERYONE CRIES. No one will think you are weak because of it. If you have to cry and someone is there LET IT OUT.

As for your finance, I hope that's not the case. I think you should to be sure before you marry. I think a prenuptial agreement is a good idea. I would suggest that even if you didn't have these feelings about him.

wordpast · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:09 PM

some of these are breaking my heart.

razorbackbelle0 · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:10 PM

me, too.

razorbackbelle0 · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:12 PM

I'm obsessed with purses! Well, that's no secret....

twiggers · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:13 PM

me three!!! Then I just went on Post Secret tonight to read the new secrets, and they are breaking my heart! I wish I could just reach out and help everyone in some way!!!!
I hope this is helping someone out there....I really do!!!!

razorbackbelle0 · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:15 PM

I'm sure it's helping just to get it out there, Twiggers.

SunnyFreckles · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by twiggers

My bad....one last one just came in:

I feel like I'm depressed but I'm afraid to get help.

Sometimes I buy purses and accessories to fill a void inside me...it's the only thing that cheers me up sometimes.

I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm a college graduate, I'm in grad school now, and I'm just not sure if I'll ever find a career I'll enjoy.

It was like I was writing this 10 years ago...

Dear, if you need someone to talk to, PLEASE reach out to me! I was so right where you are 10 years ago, and I have made it! Not without struggle, but I promise you will MAKE IT!!!

razorbackbelle0 · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by twiggers

OK We have some secrets already....I'll post them one post at a time so that we can respond to each one individually if we'd like:

I am quite accompished professionaly, my colleagues are always in wonder at how well I cope and I how I never let anything get me down.
At home my life is a shambles. My husband has been seeing another woman for 7 years, they have bought a house but he won't move in it with her, becuase "we are not the kind of family that divorces". We appear at all public and family finctions together and nobody knows. My son suffers from bipolar disorder and is a major druc addict. Mostly I sit home by myself most nights. I never cry, I am famous for my laugh, they tell me my smile is warm and I am compassionate. If I ever did cry, I am afraid I would never stop.

Get rid of that husband. Think the JoJo song: "in letting you go, I'm loving myself." That's the first big step you need to take. Then get your son the help he needs, no matter the cost. Just doing those two things will help make you whole again. But those are huge steps to take and I can't say I've ever been in your shoes. I can't imagine how hard it must be or how you must feel. But we love you and are here for you, and we'll be here for you every step of the way.

ahs483 · Dec 9th, 2007, 10:51 PM

I would like to make a suggestion. I don't know about anyone else, but I know that I would feel much more comfterable with sending in a secret if I knew no one would reply to it. Does that make sense? Some people have responded to some of these secrets by saying "now please dont take this the wrong way.." or "im just trying to help..." and I TOTALLY understand that you are just trying to give advice. But if I send in a secret, I just want you to read it and think about it to yourself. I dont want you to tell me what you think or how you think your advice can help me. maybe this is just me, but does anyone else feel this way? And I'm not trying to pick on the people that HAVE put up advice because I can totally understand where you are coming from... I just feel like it would be better if this was ONLY secrets, no extra comments. I really hope no one is offended by this, I just thought I'd stick my idea out there...

*Lo · Dec 9th, 2007, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by twiggers

My bad....one last one just came in:

I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm a college graduate, I'm in grad school now, and I'm just not sure if I'll ever find a career I'll enjoy.

OMG!!! i feel this way all the time!

im still undergrad, but i totally understand, I used to have my path so planned and now i have NO IDEA....just letting you know your not alone

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 9th, 2007, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ahs483

I would like to make a suggestion. I don't know about anyone else, but I know that I would feel much more comfterable with sending in a secret if I knew no one would reply to it. Does that make sense? Some people have responded to some of these secrets by saying "now please dont take this the wrong way.." or "im just trying to help..." and I TOTALLY understand that you are just trying to give advice. But if I send in a secret, I just want you to read it and think about it to yourself. I dont want you to tell me what you think or how you think your advice can help me. maybe this is just me, but does anyone else feel this way? And I'm not trying to pick on the people that HAVE put up advice because I can totally understand where you are coming from... I just feel like it would be better if this was ONLY secrets, no extra comments. I really hope no one is offended by this, I just thought I'd stick my idea out there...

I bet a lot of people feel this way. How about if you put in your post "Please dont comment" and we can have a "rule" that if those 3 words are in the post, nobody can comment! I bet that would help a lot of people "come out".

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 9th, 2007, 11:11 PM

I also wanted to say (((HUGS))) to everyone those who have recently posted. Gosh, some of you just dont understand how NOT alone you are!

wordpast · Dec 9th, 2007, 11:20 PM

Good idea Val, maybe you could put please don't comment if you don't want anyone to comment??

I don't want to make anyone feel uncomforable by responding. It's your secret so whatever you all feel comfortable with is fine with me.

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:00 PM	#76
twiggers Earning my PhD Joined: May 2006 Location: The Library Posts: 19,876	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret My bad....one last one just came in: I feel like I'm depressed but I'm afraid to get help. Sometimes I buy purses and accessories to fill a void inside me...it's the only thing that cheers me up sometimes. I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm a college graduate, I'm in grad school now, and I'm just not sure if I'll ever find a career I'll enjoy. __________________ Check out my new blog.....and see how I eliminated $50,000 in credit card debt in just 7 months.... COME JOIN THE COOLEST CLUB AROUND...THE CURBING CONSUMERISM CLUB

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:09 PM	#79
wordpast Member Joined: Oct 2006 Location: Never Never Land Posts: 5,471	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret some of these are breaking my heart. __________________

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:10 PM	#80
razorbackbelle0 Sofa King Banned Joined: Mar 2007 Location: Raiding PBC's closet... shh! Posts: 7,198	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret me, too.

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:12 PM	#81
razorbackbelle0 Sofa King Banned Joined: Mar 2007 Location: Raiding PBC's closet... shh! Posts: 7,198	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret I'm obsessed with purses! Well, that's no secret....

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:13 PM	#82
twiggers Earning my PhD Joined: May 2006 Location: The Library Posts: 19,876	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret me three!!! Then I just went on Post Secret tonight to read the new secrets, and they are breaking my heart! I wish I could just reach out and help everyone in some way!!!! I hope this is helping someone out there....I really do!!!! __________________ Check out my new blog.....and see how I eliminated $50,000 in credit card debt in just 7 months.... COME JOIN THE COOLEST CLUB AROUND...THE CURBING CONSUMERISM CLUB

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:15 PM	#83
razorbackbelle0 Sofa King Banned Joined: Mar 2007 Location: Raiding PBC's closet... shh! Posts: 7,198	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret I'm sure it's helping just to get it out there, Twiggers.

Dec 9th, 2007, 10:51 PM	#86
ahs483 Member Joined: Jun 2006 Location: columbia Posts: 257	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret I would like to make a suggestion. I don't know about anyone else, but I know that I would feel much more comfterable with sending in a secret if I knew no one would reply to it. Does that make sense? Some people have responded to some of these secrets by saying "now please dont take this the wrong way.." or "im just trying to help..." and I TOTALLY understand that you are just trying to give advice. But if I send in a secret, I just want you to read it and think about it to yourself. I dont want you to tell me what you think or how you think your advice can help me. maybe this is just me, but does anyone else feel this way? And I'm not trying to pick on the people that HAVE put up advice because I can totally understand where you are coming from... I just feel like it would be better if this was ONLY secrets, no extra comments. I really hope no one is offended by this, I just thought I'd stick my idea out there...

Dec 9th, 2007, 11:11 PM	#89
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Vegas where we let it all hang out. Your Vegas is showing! Posts: 5,403	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret I also wanted to say (((HUGS))) to everyone those who have recently posted. Gosh, some of you just dont understand how NOT alone you are! __________________ ~Valeen~ *~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~* Click HERE to visit MySpace

Dec 9th, 2007, 11:20 PM	#90
wordpast Member Joined: Oct 2006 Location: Never Never Land Posts: 5,471	Re: Our Very Own: Purse Secret Good idea Val, maybe you could put please don't comment if you don't want anyone to comment?? I don't want to make anyone feel uncomforable by responding. It's your secret so whatever you all feel comfortable with is fine with me. __________________