Our Very Own: Purse Secret

[sarah2808]

[quote=twiggers;4596074]And Another Secret (all from the same email):

When I was addict I did the following bad things that I have never told a soul. I'm over my addiction now, but still feel such shame.

((((((((Big Hugs)))))) To you for fighting your addiction. When people are addicts they do many things that they would not normally do. You need to know that the people that love you are just glad to see you sober and understand it was the drugs that did those horrible things. It is great that you could get this off your chest here. Hold your head up high and go out and take on the world now. WE ARE PROUD OF YOU!

[sarah2808]

Originally Posted by twiggers

Here is another Secret:

I hate my body. I'm 5'8'', and my weight fluctuates between 135 and 170. When I was young my dad used to call me fat all the time, and I went bulimic. I think that's why I'm never going to get over this. After awhile, Dad stopped saying it. My mom told him years later exactly how what he said affected me at a young age, and he broke down and cried for the first time ever, and said he was so sorry, and that I was beautiful.

But that hasn't changed it. Everyone tells me I'm beautiful, but every time I look in the mirror I see this hideous, fat blob, and I'm afraid I'm never going to get over it. I'd sell my soul to get past it. But I just can't. Even my wonderful SO, who tells me every day that I'm a "blonde bombshell" and "completely stunning", can't get me past this. I hate my body and I'm so self-conscious and paranoid. Nothing has helped and I don't think it ever will. :(

I bet you are beautiful too . It is good that your dad was able to apologize to you. It is too bad that so much damage was done. ((((hus)))). Have you tried seeing a therapist or a life coach? You need to learn to love you.

[danae]

I think I can relate to some level with every secret posted. No matter how young or loved or whatever we are, there are always things that make a big impact and maybe afect us in so many ways that we don't know.
It's very good that these secrets have been revealed, I hope each person took a deep breath afterwards and feels just a bit relieved. You all have my respect.

[Alaska]

N- what a great thread!!!

[twiggers]

Another Secret (All from the same email):

I sometime see women who are married and have a cute child and they look so happy and I think I want to trade places with them , even though I tell everyone I don't want any children

Everyday I feel like the biggest failure , no matter what I do it is never good enough for me

I like to read about really horiffc crimes , and I have no emotional reaction

I have never been kissed , never had a boyfriend and I am in my 20's - I never feel good enough for a guy to like me

I hate every inch of my body - why would anyone like me body if I hate it

I want to be a trophy wife - never work look pretty all day and have that be my life

[twiggers]

Another:

I hate when people say there's no such thing as being bisexual. I know a lot of people call themselves bi when they realize they aren't straight, and then realize later they are gay, but just because that was their experience, and they turned out not to be bi, it doesn't mean other people aren't!

[twiggers]

Another:

Am I crazy for being attracted to someone whom I've only talked to online?

[twiggers]

Another:

I really wish you would stop mentioning your ex.

[twiggers]

Originally Posted by twiggers

Another:

Am I crazy for being attracted to someone whom I've only talked to online?

Absolutely not!!!!! I met my husband online over 8 years ago....and I was attracted to him before we even started talking on the phone. It's like I was attracted to his personality that came across in how he wrote online!

[razorbackbelle0]

Originally Posted by twiggers

Another Secret (All from the same email):

I sometime see women who are married and have a cute child and they look so happy and I think I want to trade places with them , even though I tell everyone I don't want any children

Everyday I feel like the biggest failure , no matter what I do it is never good enough for me

I like to read about really horiffc crimes , and I have no emotional reaction

I have never been kissed , never had a boyfriend and I am in my 20's - I never feel good enough for a guy to like me

I hate every inch of my body - why would anyone like me body if I hate it

I want to be a trophy wife - never work look pretty all day and have that be my life

I don't want kids, but I know how you feel about wanting to be a trophy wife! You're in your 20's and still finding yourself and you need to love yourself before you look for love elsewhere Chin up! You'll get through this period. You might want to talk to a counselor about this, though.

[QueenOfDa702]

Originally Posted by twiggers

Absolutely not!!!!! I met my husband online over 8 years ago....and I was attracted to him before we even started talking on the phone. It's like I was attracted to his personality that came across in how he wrote online!

Thats so romantic!

[HubbaWubba]

Wow interesting thread. I have never heard of the "post secret" site.

I hope all those that have sent in their "secrets", take everything one day at a time and know that things will and do get better.

[twiggers]

Another Secret:

I want so desperately to be cool. I should be, right? I was in a sorority, have a college degree, have a good-paying job and became popular in high school after my sophomore year. But I'm still not satisfied. I buy the "coolest" brands trying to make myself cool and beautiful and incredible. I obsess over having things from Chanel, YSL and Louis Vuitton because I think that people will know that my lip gloss cost $28 and that will make me cooler. When I carry my bags, I always make sure people can see the logos. I obsess over what I wear and how I look and I want everyone to think I am perfect. I gab with old friends from high school about my BMW, my Chanel lip gloss and my new Louis Vuitton and Hermes bags. I see the envy in their eyes and I eat it up. I'm incredibly self-conscious if you can't tell. I want so badly to l ive in New York and lead this fabulous upper east side lifestyle like you see on Gossip Girl and in The Devil Wears Prada. But I know I never will. I spend too much on these things and not enough on important things. But I'm not satisfied with myself and I don't know why. Sometimes I hate myself.

[SunnyFreckles]

Originally Posted by twiggers

Another Secret:

I want so desperately to be cool. I should be, right? I was in a sorority, have a college degree, have a good-paying job and became popular in high school after my sophomore year. But I'm still not satisfied. I buy the "coolest" brands trying to make myself cool and beautiful and incredible. I obsess over having things from Chanel, YSL and Louis Vuitton because I think that people will know that my lip gloss cost $28 and that will make me cooler. When I carry my bags, I always make sure people can see the logos. I obsess over what I wear and how I look and I want everyone to think I am perfect. I gab with old friends from high school about my BMW, my Chanel lip gloss and my new Louis Vuitton and Hermes bags. I see the envy in their eyes and I eat it up. I'm incredibly self-conscious if you can't tell. I want so badly to l ive in New York and lead this fabulous upper east side lifestyle like you see on Gossip Girl and in The Devil Wears Prada. But I know I never will. I spend too much on these things and not enough on important things. But I'm not satisfied with myself and I don't know why. Sometimes I hate myself.

I am choosing to respond to this and hope that my point is not taken in the wrong matter.

It is important that you know that there are some people who will understand you and some who will not. I fear that if you continue to take the approach with people that you do, you are going to find yourself very alone. I just worry about you and that is why I respond this way.

You are very lucky in the sense that because you have omitted to this, you can maybe now find a new path or a new way of life that is more positive...for you!

I encourage you to find what is most important to you (the REAL things) and start living to make those things a reality! That may mean carrying your bag because you like the bag, not the advertisement of a specific brand! You have a lot of decisions to make, but I have learned through my own life experiences that brands and fads do not last. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with enjoying a great fantasy here and there...but you have to be ready for the outcome if you choose to live those in real life.

I promise, I do not want to sound like I am being mean, or judgemental, as that is not my intention. I am just trying to give you hope that there is a way for you to find a happiness in your life that is so much more that a label or a dollar amount on lip gloss.

I will pray for you! I don't know if you believe in that or not, but I do. I will keep you in a special place of my heart and continue to pray that you will find happiness, no matter how you have to do that for you! You should be very proud of yourself that you were able to share your secret! I wish you ALL the best!!!

[twiggers]

Last One For Tonight (All were from the same email):

I am afraid my Fiance only wants to marry me because my Father has money.

I never let anyone see me cry.

I weigh 400 pounds and I can't stop eating.

I'm always told I am beautiful but cry myself to sleep every night because I hate the way I look.

I buy expensive purses to try to get people to look at those instead of me.

I hate myself.

I am 27 years old and have never had sex.

I feel that my Fiance is disgusted by me.

I buy people expensive things to get them to like me.

I lie to my social worker.