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lol, Voodoo that's so funny!

Thank you Twiggers, for posting this thread.

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LOL Voodoo!!!!!

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Another one:

I'm so unhappy. I'm 5"9 and I weigh 274 pounds. I'm waiting for insurance approval for lap band surgery. I secretly don't want to have the surgery. So much of my happiness comes from eating I'm afraid I won't be able to handle not being able to eat what and when I want. I'm also afraid that I"ll still be unhappy after I lose the weight. Then I won't have anything else to blame for my unhappiness.

I was emotionally and physically abused as a child by my father. My parents divorced when I was 12 and I didn't see my Dad again until I was 18. He rejected me and doesn't want anything to do with me. I secretly still yearn for his acceptance. I get a couple of E-mails a year from him and he always says we should get together but then never calls or responds to my calls.

I am 100,000 in debt from college both undergrad and grad school. I spend money like crazy. I am living with my Mom because I'd rather drive a BMW and buy expensive handbags, clothes and shoes than spend money on rent.

I think I'm a pathological liar. I lie about the most random things. I tell people what they want to hear no matter if its the truth or not.

I've been in a four month relationship with my boyfriend. But he is still married. He doesn't live with his wife, but he hasn't filed for divorce. I told him he needs to file for divorce by Christmas. But I'm afraid if he doesn't I won't be strong enough to leave him. I really do love him.

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Another:

i'm miserable at my job, but i really have absolutely no idea of what i'd like to be doing instead. if i knew, i'd quit and pursue something else. nothing interests me.

i wish people would stop telling me how to spend my money! i'm a hard worker, and its my own money, so who cares if i buy a new bag every once in a while? i pay my bills on time, its not like i'm irresponsible.

i haven't been in a decent relationship in years, and i tell my friends i'm just fine by myself. honestly, all i want is a great boyfriend. my friends are hardly there for me, it would be nice to have someone who was. the only men i meet are either married or complete losers.

my best friend(and only person who i really feel i can talk about anything with) is moving across the country, and might be there for up to two or three years. i don't want her to leave. :(

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Another:

i have wanted a baby so badly for so long it hurts my heart. it makes it hard to move forward in my life because all i think is "why go to school/start a career/etc when i'm just going to stop in a few years to be a mommy?" it's all i've every wanted in my adult life. i have a wonderful stable marriage, a husband with a good job, our ducks are mostly in a row.....and still we wait. i can't take birth control pills because i'm afraid of the temptation to "forget." everytime i hear of someone in my life being pregnant it is so bittersweet....and sometimes much more bitter than sweet. i am jealous of the teen parents i counsel. sometimes i wish it could just "happen" because i know we would be happy and survive....thrive even. and still we wait.

i'm not quite sure what we (he) is waiting for.

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Another:

I've kissed/made out with three other men since I've been married.

[ahertz]

Originally Posted by twiggers

And another:

To my man:

Stop bitching at me when I don't clean the house. I work all day and I pay all the bills-- yours AND mine. Why don't YOU clean the freaking place for a change.
Stop telling me that you don't make messes. I spent an hour cleaning YOUR bathroom last night, jerk.
Stop whining about money. I make twice as much as you do because I have a college degree, and you constantly make fun of me for it.
Pay some of the freaking bills. HELP ME OUT HERE. Don't make me feel like a jerk for asking.
Get over my purse addiction. Your RC cars and playstation and computer games you've bought this year cost as much as several new bags. Let me have a little luxury. I work my ass off for it.
Get into the Christmas thing. I don't know if it's an excuse to not buy me a gift or something, but my family is very traditional about Christmas and if you want to be a part of my family this is something you've got to deal with, not roll your eyes at.
Stop looking at porn on the internet when I'm sitting across the room from you. I know you're doing it. I'm not stupid. The headphones don't mask the moaning.
Stop lying to me about the myspace messages with your ex. I know you're doing it. I also know they're harmless, but you lying doesn't make it look that way.
Learn how to dress! Levi's that have been patched 5 times and tank tops with greasy holes aren't attractive.
Give me a little bit of credit for the fact that I cook, clean, work a full time job and pay all the bills.
Stop talking about how much you hate my cat. I told you I was getting a cat and you said it was fine. Now all you do is terrorize it and talk about how you hate cats. I put up with your dog. DEAL WITH IT.

Comments WELCOME.

You are SO much better than this. The only way to achieve change is to MAKE it happen. Good luck!

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Another:

I'm married but I dream at least once a month about my ex-boyfriend (together for 7 years before DH & I met). I look him up on the internet all the time....I just want to know what happened to him and if things turned out OK for him.

[LoriB]

Originally Posted by twiggers

And another (all of the below are from the same email):

To my husband:

I hate your driving
I hate your music from the 1980s
I hate how you criticize everything I do or everything anyone does, when all we are trying to do is be helpful and nice. If you don't like my cooking don't eat it.
I wish you'd try to lose weight
I wish you'd stop bugging me about sex
I wish you'd stop making fun of me
I wish you'd stop be so vulgar all the time
Stop watching COPS...the show is stupid
Stop dressing like a slob...grease stains are not attractive
Stop telling me you make more money than I do. I get it already!

This wasn't me, but I could have written every freakin word of it. Still love him though!

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Another:

I have a huge crush on a man. It makes me feel like an idiot. I haven't told anyone. I'd die if anyone knew what was going on inside of my head. I just can't stop thinking about him. He probably never even thinks about me, but I keep hoping he does. I don't even know if he's available. I have trouble believing someone like him would be unattached. He has a magnetic personality, a warm loving quality about him, wonderful eyes, a great smile, a voice that is beautiful, is well educated, and has a great job making a very good living. He's basically a super good catch. Every so often late at night I'll look at pictures of him on the internet. I tell myself I am being so silly to be so fixated on someone I barely know. I pray to God that I'll either get together with him or forget about him, because this is just driving me insane. Any other man I look at I find myself comparing to him.

I am an educated woman with a successful career. I tell everyone I like being single and am happy this way. Honestly I'm sort of jealous of people who are in fulfilling marriages or in happy relationships. I just wish that that could happen to me. I truly want to be with a man that I share a real and geniune love with. I can't seem to ever have that happen. I haven't had a date or any type of physical contact with a man in over a year. I don't know how much longer than that it's been because I don't want to think about it. I am totally sexually frustrated. It makes me feel like a complete loser. I don't project myself to the outside world as a loser at all though. I'm embarassed to even admit to any of this. Even typing it out makes me feel weird.

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I just want to give all my support, thoughts, prayers, and HUGS to those who need them...some of these stories really break my heart. I hope you all will have the strength to overcome and finally live the life you deserve.

You're not alone...I know that anyone who has posted on this thread would not mind at ALL, so if you ever needed someone to talk to, just feel free to PM!

Here's to the some of the strongest people I know, yet haven't even met...

Looking forward to more secrets...thanks again Twiggers for an amazing thread.

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My absolute pleasure!!!!! It has been cathartic for me reading these...because for some of them I now know I'm not alone!!!

[gro3602]

This is absolutely positively NORMAL.

Originally Posted by twiggers

Another:

I'm married but I dream at least once a month about my ex-boyfriend (together for 7 years before DH & I met). I look him up on the internet all the time....I just want to know what happened to him and if things turned out OK for him.

[Bridget S.]

Originally Posted by twiggers

Another:

Am I crazy for being attracted to someone whom I've only talked to online?

Heavens no, and don't let anyone tell you what you can feel and what you can't. If you have been talking online for a long time, you can tell about a person.

My husband and met online, we were friends for a year before anything developed, we have now known each other for 11 years and married for 9! Don't let anyone tell you it can't work!

Follow your instincts!!

I wish you well,

Bridget

[SOLIDGOLD2]

Originally Posted by twiggers

And another:

To my man:

Stop bitching at me when I don't clean the house. I work all day and I pay all the bills-- yours AND mine. Why don't YOU clean the freaking place for a change.
Stop telling me that you don't make messes. I spent an hour cleaning YOUR bathroom last night, jerk.
Stop whining about money. I make twice as much as you do because I have a college degree, and you constantly make fun of me for it.
Pay some of the freaking bills. HELP ME OUT HERE. Don't make me feel like a jerk for asking.
Get over my purse addiction. Your RC cars and playstation and computer games you've bought this year cost as much as several new bags. Let me have a little luxury. I work my ass off for it.
Get into the Christmas thing. I don't know if it's an excuse to not buy me a gift or something, but my family is very traditional about Christmas and if you want to be a part of my family this is something you've got to deal with, not roll your eyes at.
Stop looking at porn on the internet when I'm sitting across the room from you. I know you're doing it. I'm not stupid. The headphones don't mask the moaning.
Stop lying to me about the myspace messages with your ex. I know you're doing it. I also know they're harmless, but you lying doesn't make it look that way.
Learn how to dress! Levi's that have been patched 5 times and tank tops with greasy holes aren't attractive.
Give me a little bit of credit for the fact that I cook, clean, work a full time job and pay all the bills.
Stop talking about how much you hate my cat. I told you I was getting a cat and you said it was fine. Now all you do is terrorize it and talk about how you hate cats. I put up with your dog. DEAL WITH IT.

Comments WELCOME.

You are a wonderful woman and DESERVE someone who is going to appreciate everything you do in the home and at work. Lose the baggage and find someone who will see all the wonderful qualities you have, find someone who will notice the little things you do and not put down your purses when he's still palying with video games...not that theres anything wrong with it but no need to put you down. I hope one day you tell him excatly how you feel