Originally Posted by loopylorns
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^ To be honest i think you are jumping the gun a bit here.
Your auction ended the 23rd of last month.
Although she only has 4 feedback they are all positive and she has paid near $300 for an item, so there is no indication that she wont pay you,nor is there any proof in your post that she was lying.
Poor girl may well be telling the truth and have lost her father but in any case IMHO you are being very harsh without giving her time under the circumstances of her e-mail to you.
Whilst I appreciate she did not make contact untill you initiated a non paying bidder alert, please ask yourself if you would be thinking of ebay on the death of a beloved.
This is a big reason I am against this thread.
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I know that this is not the reason for this thread - to chat about eBay but, to list item numbers and non-paying bidders. (And since I myself play both roles on eBay and have since 2000, I think it's great on one hand to have a forum where we can scan and see bidders we'd be better off not dealing with. As well as I can also see where there's a need for a forum to vent some of our frustrations that follow with certain situations).
It's not always black and white with each transaction and to think it is, well one would be kidding themselves. Yes, eBay can and is a business for many but, what we have to keep in mind is that many things do happen in life such as the above poster was trying to get across to the seller who was just following the NPB rules. As I said, we have to take each situation into consideration and things do come up and it's very, very likely that the bidder had a death in the family. I've had a similar situation and had about 18 sales close plus a business outside of eBay to run and night course in University to worry about. And all that I could do was to take a deep breath and deal with everything one at a time. Of course, when it's something like a death in the family and you're trying to keep things together, the last thing you want to deal with eBay, let alone school or work or really, anything. So if you're thinking that three days was ample time for her to take care of everything with you, to me that wasn't really being very considerate under the circumstances. There's time when you can bend the rules at your own discretion and if she sent that over to you, why not request a contact buyer and give her a call and feel out the situation? Cut someone a little slack, it's not like you know the situation and never really will. (Even if she was on eBay and bought 10 more things a few days later, that doesn't mean anything. I did a lot of damage to my credit card and do when I'm really stressed, unfortunately). I don't shop because I need to in those times, I shop because I'm trying to get out of my miserable state of mind. (I've got the handbag/shoe collection to prove it).
Now that I've gone on too long here, I'll end it by saying that we need to have a forum on here for eBayers that seem to think that all of our lives have to be put second to eBay. Or that we have to schedule our lives around eBay - no matter what. (It doesn't happen that way and never will). Give others a chance and don't be so cynical.