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Nov 14, 2014, 3:59pm   #1
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I have never wanted to believe it could be true, but there's at least a dozen people right? :(

Bill Cosby raped me. Why did it take 30 years for people to believe my story?

http://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/bil...ory/ar-BBduiQT




In 2004, when Andrea Constand filed a lawsuit against Bill Cosby for sexual assault, her lawyers asked me to testify. Cosby had drugged and raped me, too, I told them. The lawyers said I could testify anonymously as a Jane Doe, but I ardently rejected that idea. My name is not Jane Doe. My name is Barbara Bowman, and I wanted to tell my story in court. In the end, I didn’t have the opportunity to do that, because Cosby settled the suit for an undisclosed amount of money.
Over the years, I’ve struggled to get people to take my story seriously. So last month, when reporter Lycia Naff contacted me for an interview for the Daily Mail, I gave her a detailed account. I told her how Cosby won my trust as a 17-year-old aspiring actress in 1985, brainwashed me into viewing him as a father figure, and then assaulted me multiple times. In one case, I blacked out after having dinner and one glass of wine at his New York City brownstone, where he had offered to mentor me and discuss the entertainment industry. When I came to, I was in my panties and a man’s t-shirt, and Cosby was looming over me. I’m certain that he drugged and raped me. The final incident was in Atlantic City, where we had traveled for industry event. I was staying in a separate bedroom of Cosby’s hotel suite, but he pinned me down in his own bed while I screamed for help. I’ll never forget the clinking of his belt buckle as he struggled to pull his pants off. I furiously tried to wrestle from his grasp until he eventually gave up, angrily called me “a baby” and sent me home to Denver.
Back then, the incident was so horrifying that I had trouble admitting it to myself, let alone to others. But I first told my agent, who did nothing. (Cosby sometimes came to her office to interview people for “The Cosby Show” and other acting jobs.) A girlfriend took me to a lawyer, but he accused me of making the story up. Their dismissive responses crushed any hope I had of getting help; I was convinced no one would listen to me. That feeling of futility is what ultimately kept me from going to the police. I told friends what had happened, and although they sympathized with me, they were just as helpless to do anything about it. I was a teenager from Denver acting in McDonald’s commercials. He was Bill Cosby: consummate American dad Cliff Huxtable and the Jell-O spokesman. Eventually, I had to move on with my life and my career.
I didn’t stay entirely quiet, though: I’ve been telling my story publicly for nearly 10 years. When Constand brought her lawsuit, I found renewed confidence. I was determined to not be silent any more. In 2006, I was interviewed by Robert Huber for Philadelphia Magazine, and Alycia Lane for KYW-TV news in Philadelphia. A reporter wrote about my experience in the December 2006 issue of People Magazine. And last February, Katie Baker interviewed me for Newsweek. Bloggers and columnists wrote about that story for several months after it was published. Still, my complaint didn’t seem to take hold.
Only after a man, Hannibal Buress, called Bill Cosby a rapist in a comedy act last month did the public outcry begin in earnest. The original video of Buress’s performance went viral. This week, Twitter turned against him, too, with a meme that emblazoned rape scenarios across pictures of his face.
While I am grateful for the new attention to Cosby’s crimes, I must ask my own questions: Why wasn’t I believed? Why didn’t I get the same reaction of shock and revulsion when I originally reported it? Why was I, a victim of sexual assault, further wronged by victim blaming when I came forward? The women victimized by Bill Cosby have been talking about his crimes for more than a decade. Why didn’t our stories go viral?
Even now, Cosby has a new comedy special coming out on Netflix and NBC is set to give him a new sitcom.
Fixing this problem demands more than public shaming. For Cosby to commit these assaults against multiple victims over several years, there had to be a network of willfully blind wallflowers at best, or people willing to aid him in committing these sexual crimes at worst. As I told the Daily Mail, when I was a teenager, his assistants transported me to hotels and events to meet him. When I blacked out at Cosby’s home, there were several staffers with us. My agent, who introduced me to Cosby, had me take a pregnancy test when I returned from my last trip with him. Talent agents, hotel staff, personal assistants and others who knowingly made arrangements for Cosby’s criminal acts or overlooked them should be held equally accountable.
I have never received any money from Bill Cosby and have not asked for it. I have nothing to gain by continuing to speak out. He can no longer be charged for his crimes against me because the statute of limitations is long past. That is also wrong. There should be no time limits on reporting these crimes, and one of my goals is to call for legislation to that end. Famous and wealthy perpetrators use their power to shame and silence their victims. It often takes years for young women to overcome those feeling and gain the confidence to come forward (by which point physical evidence is long gone). Our legal system shouldn’t silence them a second time.
Last week, I became a volunteer ambassador for PAVE (Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment), a national victim advocacy group that seeks to shatter the silence around sexual violence through targeted social, educational and legislative tactics. I will be writing and traveling the country talking to media, students and other interested groups about the importance of speaking out against sexual assault. I’ll largely focus on young models and actors who are especially vulnerable to the influences of the rich and powerful. They, like other sexual assault victims, deserve our support. It’s the perpetrators who should be facing public humiliation — not the victims.
Editor’s note: A representative for Bill Cosby did not return multiple calls and e-mails from Washington Post staff for comment on this piece. Elsewhere, Cosby repeatedly denied separate sexual-assault allegations by Andrea Constand.
Nov 14, 2014, 4:18pm   #2
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I have to say - with a fair amount of bile in my mouth - this has been covered up excellently. These allegations have been public for years yet it's only recently that they're becoming widespread.

And the similarities amongst the various accusers's stories is scary. If they are true - and it seems likely they are - he is some sort of monster.

I always wondered at how he managed to keep his squeaky clean image after the stories of his cheating on his wife were proven and that he had fathered a child out of wedlock. It does put his judgmental stance on things like baby names in a completely different light
Nov 14, 2014, 4:20pm   #3
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I know :(
Nov 14, 2014, 4:46pm   #4
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We've been hearing this for years.
Nov 14, 2014, 5:10pm   #5
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I've never heard this until now and I am shocked and disgusted if it's true. I just don't understand. Not why he would do something like that... I will never understand people like that. What I don't understand is why it has been covered up for so long??? Being famous DOES NOT give you the right to assault someone!
Nov 14, 2014, 5:19pm   #6
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This will disappear and he'll go back to being America's Dad again fairly soon. It has over and over again throughout the years. We just don't want to believe that our beloved Cosby is a predator and that he has been for decades...Which he has been.
Nov 15, 2014, 1:38am   #7
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cheating on a spouse and having kids outside of marriage is NOT on the same level as being a sexual predator.

I'm interested in seeing how this plays out, if any actual charges will be made or if he will just be slain in the court of public opinion.
Nov 15, 2014, 3:17am   #8
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It is really sad that her story wasn't believed. I think the biggest reason is live in a time where celebrities aren't invincible anymore and people will ask questions. The Jimmy Saville thing unleashed Pandora's box in the entertainment industry, and I think that there are probably a lot more people out there that were being covered up.
Nov 15, 2014, 5:43am   #9
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I'm not entirely sure I believe this story...😐
Nov 15, 2014, 6:34am   #10
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Unless a woman goes to the police immediately afterward, beaten and with semen in her panties, the police probably won't do anything. And unless the police file charges the media is not going to relate the story, because it's a situation of she-said, he-said, one ripe for defamation suits. It's been that way for ages sadly. Sexual predators know this. They know that women, especially young women, will be too ashamed and too embarrassed to go to the police, at least immediately, and when they finally do, they will never be believed. This has been going on for ages. It happened with the pedophile priests. It happened with the Penn State child sex abuse scandal. These women have been telling their stories of assault for thirty years. Only now because of the Internet are we paying attention. I wish it wasn't true. I've always been a fan of Cosby. But many abused women have now come forward and their stories have the ring of credibility.
Nov 15, 2014, 9:16am   #11
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Originally Posted by Junkenpo
cheating on a spouse and having kids outside of marriage is NOT on the same level as being a sexual predator.

I'm interested in seeing how this plays out, if any actual charges will be made or if he will just be slain in the court of public opinion.
I agree, although .. it's not cool to cheat either.

One thing that strikes a cord in her account. If there was any suspicion (re: the time she woke up in her panties and a men's top), WHY -OH- WHY .. would you go on a 3rd trip??? I don't know, maybe it's me, but if I had ANY suspicion of wrong-doing whatsoever, I would NEVER put myself in that situation again!!! See, that's why I have a hard time believing these types of stories. Who in their right mind, would put themselves into a situation where something similar (or worse) could happen?
Nov 15, 2014, 11:42am   #12
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Originally Posted by CeeJay
I agree, although .. it's not cool to cheat either.

One thing that strikes a cord in her account. If there was any suspicion (re: the time she woke up in her panties and a men's top), WHY -OH- WHY .. would you go on a 3rd trip??? I don't know, maybe it's me, but if I had ANY suspicion of wrong-doing whatsoever, I would NEVER put myself in that situation again!!! See, that's why I have a hard time believing these types of stories. Who in their right mind, would put themselves into a situation where something similar (or worse) could happen?
I agree

and also if she got a settlement I'd think it would include an agreement for her to not pursue the matter further and not to talk about it?

Whether he's being falsely accused or these allegations are true, either way it's sad
Nov 15, 2014, 12:01pm   #13
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Originally Posted by Junkenpo
cheating on a spouse and having kids outside of marriage is NOT on the same level as being a sexual predator.

I'm interested in seeing how this plays out, if any actual charges will be made or if he will just be slain in the court of public opinion.
I didn't say it was. But it usually has a negative impact on people's images that it did not have on him and his image was especially wholesome.
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Nov 15, 2014, 12:09pm   #14
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I too have wondered about her putting herself in a vulnerable position more than once but from my understanding this happened over a couple of years, she was unsure what had happened the first time and she trusted him like a father. It takes a while sometimes to believe that someone we put our faith in - the entire country believes in, in this case - is betraying our trusts.

The other accusations by the dozen or so women are one off incidents of drugging and rapping. Most have refused to settle.

In Barbara's case I think her not reporting it to the police is what lead to it not being believed. It may have been seen like bitterness or lies. The fact that nobody seems to have accused her of that does suggest that it may have been known and covered up however.
Nov 15, 2014, 1:27pm   #15
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Originally Posted by sdkitty
I agree

and also if she got a settlement I'd think it would include an agreement for her to not pursue the matter further and not to talk about it?

Whether he's being falsely accused or these allegations are true, either way it's sad
She didn't get a settlement, he settled with another woman Andrea Constand. This lady Barbara Bowman was going to testify at that trial but Cosby settled out of court.
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