Thank you for this thread...
My manager at work sometimes is so intolerable that it's not unusual if I just have a breakdown and cry in the bathroom...
The latest was last week when she accused me of creating an incorrect report that affected our year end distribution..
She is a divorcee and between me and my other female colleague, we really feel she plays favoritism..She loves my male colleague and all other males worker that talks to her..
So what happened was, a massive error happened and she rudely asking to see the paperworks...so my colleague found and showed her, despite it bears my male colleague's name and signature on it, she didn't want to believe it..
She was like: "it couldn't have been (name of male colleague)"!!!
The she went on: (my name) was it you?
Because I sat one desk away from her, I couldn't see the paperwork and couldnt be certain if I created that particular report (all of us was allocated into numbers of funds) so I didn't say anything and was fully on checking the soft copy..
Only later I found the papers she was looking at and saw my male colleague's name and signature and the date it was created..
And to my surprise, that day I wasn't even there as I was still on my holiday!!
This has gnawed me for days so I decided to raise it with her..
I told her my concerns that when she despite saw the name and signature of my male colleague, she went ahead and accused me..
Why did she do that? It is really hurtful.. My male colleague has commited many breaches (just because he doesn't care about the job and knows that he can always get away with his mistakes) and I have tried my hardest working with her (my recent performance review has rated me as someone who often exceeds expectation) - so why is it, in her eyes, that it is impossible for him to make mistake, but it is natural if there is a mistake, it is me who did it?!
She straight away brushed me off saying: "you are too paranoid. Stop over exaggerating and toughen up!" and told me she doesn't have time for this..
Needless to say, I have started to look for another job..
I have been in the company for more than 2 1/2 years now and I don't think I deserve this..
At my first month there, she has reduced my self esteem to nothing..I am not good yet but slowly I am learning to appreciate myself more..
I don't know how else to cope except to learn to accept that she is just a horrible person and diseased at heart...
So I just want to let it out...thank you for listening