Originally Posted by plumaplomb
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It is so crazy that I came across this thread today. I was just arguing with my SO about our future children. He said they could choose whether they would go to college, but no matter what, they had to be out of the house by 20. I balked at this because I am from a very higher education-oriented family and I grew up thinking that going to college was the only option. As I get older (and especially in this economic climate), I am beginning to realize that perhaps this is a very close-minded view. Maybe I'm just prideful?
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Out of the house by 20?

I'll never understand the point of kicking your kids out when they're still young and finding their way... but that's a totally different conversation... to answer your question, it depends on the kids. College isn't for everyone. Maybe if you have boys they'll want to pick up a trade or do something that doesn't require college. In that case, not going to college is ok because they have a goal and ways of going that route. Infact, i just read that construction has the most jobs right now and is the best industry to get into at the moment.
However, i think college is good for people who don't know what they want to do, it gives you opportunities and opens you up to different fields. If your kids graduate high school and have no direction and they're passing their days working at mcdonalds, then yeah i would try to get them to go to college. The only time i think it's acceptable to not go to college is if you have another route you want to go and are taking steps to get there. I would never tell my son he has to go to university if it's always been his dream to be a carpenter, KWIM?
Personally i don't believe in parents pushing their child to go a certain route, As long as they're ambitious and are going after their goals, i think that's all that matters. It's all about the individual. You can have the laziest kid go to college and graduate but they'll probably never be successful because they have no drive to be, then you can have a person who doesn't go to college but is extremely ambitious and ends up doing really well in a field they're passionate about. I definitely believe that it doesn't hurt to go to college but it's not a guarantee for success.